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بسم الله الرحمان الرحيم

الحمد الله

Al-Ma’roor ibn Suwayd narrates that he once saw Abu Dharr – radi Allaahu ‘anhu – wearing a beautiful shawl. His slave standing next to him was wearing a shawl exactly like it, warm and beautiful.

Ma’roor said to Abu Dharr, “Perhaps you could take the shawl of your servant and give him another (less expensive) one.”

“Never,” said Abu Dharr, “for I once had a servant whose mother was not Arab and I cussed him and his mother. That servant went to the Messenger of Allah – sal Allaahu alayhi wa sallam – complaining of the words I had said.

“When Rasul Allaah – sal Allaahu alayhi wa sallam – saw me he commented, ‘O Abu Dharr, you are a man who still has Jahilliyyah (Pre-Islamic Ignorance) in him.’”

Because of these painful words, Abu Dharr – may Allah be pleased with him – would always dress his servants in the exact same garments that he would wear.

Dear brothers and sisters, Allah is disobeyed most with our tongues. There is a sin that sweeps amongst us, a sin that many take lightly, a sin that is laughed at, a sin that could very well pull someone to Hellfire: It is the sin of insulting others.

Read carefully this following verse. It is a commandment of Allah that begins with a call to those who claim to have Eemaan. Allah ta’ala says in the Qur’an (49/11):

O you who believe let not one group of people make fun of another, perhaps the (one’s being made fun of) are better then them. And let not women make fun of other women perhaps the (woman being made fun of) is better then them. And do not insult one another and do not call each other by (offensive) nicknames. Wretched is the name (i.e. mention) of disobedience after (one’s) faith. And whoever does not repent – then it is those who are the Dhaalimoon (the wrongdoers).

Perhaps the one that is being made fun of is more beloved to Allah. Subhaan Allah, let us remember this if we ever try to make fun of someone, perhaps Allah loves them and does not love us. Didn’t the Mushrikeen make fun of Rasul Allah – sal Allaahu alayhi wa sallam – and we know Allah loved him and not them. Didn’t the Munaafiqeen make fun of the Sahaabah – and we know Allah loved the Sahaabah and not them.

Rasul Allah – sal Allaahu alayhi wa sallam – said, “Verily a person will speak words from those that Allah hates, paying no heed to what he is saying, and with those words he will plummet in to hellfire.” – Bukhari

There are different reasons why a person would want to insult, make fun of and ridicule other community members:

Firstly: They have weak Eemaan and their fear of Allah is poor. This is one of the major reasons.

Secondly: They spend a lot of their time in gatherings that bring no benefit.

Thirdly: They themselves may want others to praise them. Sadly, when there is a student or a community member that insults others, often it is they that want to be the ‘cool’ one. How can they be ‘cool’ if they are doing something that Allah and His Messenger hate?

Fourthly: They forget the punishment for those that make fun of others. Imam Al-Bayhaqee narrates in Shu’ab al-Eemaan, that Rasul Allah – sal Allaahu alayhi wa sallam – said, “Verily those people that make fun of people – for them a gate of Jannah will be opened. It will be said to them: Come (and enter). That person will come with all their anguish and depression – but when he gets close, the gate will be closed in his face. Then another gate (to Jannah) will be opened and it will be said: Come (and enter). So that person comes with all his anguish and depression. But when he gets close, the gate will be closed in his face. This will keep happening to him until it gets to the point where it will be said: Come (and enter), and he will not come from the despair of ever entering paradise.”

Fifthly: Those that make fun of others may do so out of love for the Kuffaar and a love to imitate them. How many times do we see the comedians mocking people and everyone laughing? Indeed, mocking others and insulting them is a characteristic of Jaahiliyyah and kufr, and it is never a characteristic of a believer.

Allah ta’ala shows us in Surah Al-Mutaffifeen (83/29) how this characteristic of laughing at others is a characteristic of the Kuffaar:

Indeed, those who committed crimes used to laugh at those who believed.

The seriousness of this sin varies in accordance to the subject being insulted:

On the highest level of seriousness is to make fun of Allah or His Ayaat or His Messenger – sal Allaahu alayhi wa sallam.
A group of Munaafiqeen started joking one day about their Qurr’aa, i.e. the Companions of Allah’s Messenger. They described in ridiculing terms that they were large in stomachs, having lying tongues and being cowardly. Allah ta’ala tells us in the Qur’an (9/65-66): And if you ask them, they will surely say, “We were only conversing and playing.” Say, “Is it Allah and His verses and His Messenger that you were mocking?” / Make no excuse; you have disbelieved (i.e. rejected faith) after your belief. If We pardon one faction of you – We will punish another faction because they were criminals.

To ridicule and make fun of the Sahaabah
In the incident just mentioned, the comment that the Munaafiqeen was actually directed at the Sahaabah. The Qur’aan shows us that this was a direct ridicule of Allah, His verses, and His Messenger.

Shaykh Al-Uthaymeen – rahi mahullaah – said: Thus it is understood that someone who curses and ridicules the Companions is a Kaafir. This is because cutting their honor is in reality an attempt at ridiculing Allah and His Messenger and His Sharee’ah.

To ridicule the pious believers
For example, if someone were to ridicule a pious believer because of his practice of the Deen, such as ridiculing a brother’s beard or to mock a sisters Hijaab, etc. Doing this – i.e. mocking a Muslim because of his Islam – may very well expel someone from the fold of Islam.

Allah ta’ala says in Surah Al-Mutaffifeen (29-30):

Indeed, those that committed crimes used to laugh at those who believed

As reported in Tafseer At-Tabaree, the Munaafiqeen were once sitting back watching the charity that the believers were giving. To those that gave much, like AbdurRahmaan ibn ‘Owf, they said, ‘he only gave it to show off’. For those that gave little, they said, ‘Verily, Allah has no need for his petty offering.”

And so Allah ta’ala revealed in Surat At-Tawbah (9/79):

Those who criticize the contributers among the believers concerning their charities and (criticize) the ones who find nothing (to spend) except their effort, so they ridicule them – Allah will ridicule them, and they will have a painful punishment.

To ridicule humans in general
This applies to the God-fearing and the Fussaaq, a believer should not humiliate people and or use derogatory nicknames for them, nor should they ridicule their creation.

Allah ta’ala says 49/11:

O you who believe let not one group of people make fun of another

And Rasul Allah – sal Allaahu alayhi wa sallam – said, “It is enough sin for a person that they would ridicule their Muslim brother.”

Abdullaah ibn Mas’ood – radi Allaahu ‘anhu – used to say, as narrated by Ibn Abee ‘Aasim, “By Allah whom there is no god but He, there is nothing more worthy of a prolonged incarceration then one’s tongue.”


Part II

Abu Moosa – radi Allaahu ‘anhu – said: I asked Allah’s Messenger, ‘Who out of the Muslims is the best?’ He replied, “Those whom the other Muslims are safe from his tongue and hands.” – Agreed Upon

The mockingbird, native to the western hemisphere, has a very interesting name. The mockingbird gets its name from its ability to mimic the sounds of other animals. It combines song notes of it’s own with sounds from other birds, doing so in almost a mocking way. It is an endangered species, and we hope – in sha Allah – that the mocking it got its name after will become endangered in our communities too.

Al-Hasan Al-Basree – rahimahullaah – said, “Whoever does not guard the slips of their tongue has not understood their Deen.”

Dear brothers and sisters, one of the saddest things is to see the regulars of the masjid, or the leaders of the Muslim youth, being the ones who mock others. So many youth groups and Halaqahs around North America are built on this notion that in order to be cool you must ridicule and mock others.

In other places, I know personally people that abandoned the local Masjid because they did not want to be ridiculed by the Muslims. They felt more comfort and compassion in the character of the disbelievers. What will Allah ta’ala think of someone that does this to the Muslims, someone who is an obstacle for others to come closer to Allah?

If we find a gathering of Muslims to be like this, it is our duty to command the good and forbid the evil and demand that this ridiculing stop once and for all.

In conclusion, the questions that begs to be asked is: What is the cure for this disease of the tongue?

One: We should know that it is a major sin. In fact, a person may make a single statement – not paying any heed to it – by which he may slip in to Hellfire.

Two: We should follow what our tongues are saying and not allow ourselves to stoop to vain talk.

Three: We should distance ourselves from those long useless gatherings where nothing is done for hours except laughing and chatting. Instead, we should replace our gatherings with the remembrance of Allah and good speech.

Four: We must glorify this Deen and make enormous in our hearts the commandments of Allah ta’ala. If Allah says do not make fun of one another, our reply should be nothing more then: ‘we hear and we obey’.

Five: We should warn others of the sin of insulting other people and making fun of them. Let us not allow ourselves to be as a silent Shaytaan listening to others being insulted. Let us speak up and say it clearly that this is not something loved by Allah and His Messenger. Say that if Allah and His Messenger hate it, then so do I.

Six: If you feel yourself that you just have to insult someone, ask Allah to protect you from the Shaytaan and this satanic act. As Allah ta’ala says (7/200): And if an evil suggestion comes to you from Satan, then seek refuge in Allah. Indeed, He is Hearing and Knowing.

Seven: And of course, if anyone of us should fall into this sin, we should be swift in turning back to Allah in Towbah. Say Astaghfirullaah wa ‘atoobo ilayh, O Allah I ask You to forgive me and I return to You.

Allah ta’ala says in the Qur’an (49/11): And whoever does not repent – then it is those who are the Dhaalimoon (the wrongdoers).

Finally, if there is one thing that you remember from this khutbah let it be this following commandment of Allaah ta’ala, memorize it and teach it to at least one other person:

O you who believe let not one group of people make fun of another

By Shaykh Muhammad Alshareef حفظه الله

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Silence is Salvation…

بسم الله الرحمان الرحيم

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله و بركاته

الحمد الله

On the authority of Jabir bin ‘AbduLlah رضي الله عنه, the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said, “The Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said, “The most beloved to me and the closest to me on the Day of Resurrection will be those of you who have the best attitudes. And the hateful to me and the furthest from me on the Day of Resurrection will be the thartharoon, al-mutashaddiqoon and al-mutafayhiqoon.” The Sahabah رضي الله عنه said, “O’ Messenger of Allah, we understand thartharoon and al-mutashaddiqoon, so who are the al-mutafayhiqoon?” The Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said, “Those who arrogant in their speech.”

[Sunan at-Tirmidhi]

On the authority of Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said, “The servant of Allah at times utters one word of the Pleasure of Allah to which he attaches no importance but for that one word Allah سبحانه و تعالى raises him many grades. The servant of Allah at times utters one word of the Displeasure of Allah to which he attaches no importance but for that one word, he falls in Jahannam.” [Sahih al-Bukhari]

On the authority of Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه, “Once the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم asked the Sahabah, ‘Do you know who the poor and destitute person is amongst you?’ The Sahabah said, ‘O’ Messenger of Allah, amongst us the poor and the destitute person is recognised as being one who has no wealth and no possessions and truly that what we think is poor and destitute is.’ Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said, ‘The poor and destitute person in my Ummah will be he who will come in the Day of Judgement, with the reward of Salah, Siyam, Zakah but he will come in such a way that during his life time he would have verbally abused a person, slandered another person, he would have unlawfully taken the wealth of another, he would have shed the blood of another, he would physically hit another so Allah سبحانه و تعالى will Judge between them and each of these people who had been wronged will be given of his good deeds as compensation of their suffering. If his good deeds expire before he is able to pay that which due on him then their sins will be taken from them and be placed on their shoulders and then he will be thrown in fire.’”

[Sahih Muslim]

On the authority of Anas bin Malik رضي الله عنه, Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said, “A man’s Iman is never perfect until his heart is straight and man’s heart can never be straight until his tongue is straight. That man will never enter Jannah whose neighbour fears his problems and his inconvenience.” [Musnad Imam Ahmad]

On the authority of Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه, the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said, “”He who believes in Allah and the final Day, let him not hurt and inconvenience his neighbour. He who believes in Allah and the final Day, let him honour his guest that is the sign of the person’s Iman. He who believes in Allah and the final Day, let him say something good otherwise let him remain silent.”  [Sahihayn]

On the authority of Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه, the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said, “It is sufficient for a man to be sinful that he narrates everything he hears.” [Sunan Abi Dawud]

On the authority of Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه, the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said, “It is sufficient for a man to be a liar that he narrates everything he hears.” [Sahih Muslim]
On the authority of Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه, Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم, “A believer does not become a perfect believer until he abandons lying, even as a joke. Until he gives up arguing and debating even if he may be upon the truth and he may be right.” [Sunan Abi Dawud]

The Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said, “…fasting is a shield therefore, when one of you is fasting on a particular day, let him not speak offensively let him not shout abusively. If someone swears at him or abuses him, or argues with him, then let him simply say, ‘I am a man who is fasting!'” [Sahih al-Bukhari]

On the authority of ‘AbduLlah bin ‘Umar رضي الله عنهما, the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said, “He who withholds his tongue, Allah سبحانه و تعالى will conceal his faults.” [Ibn Abi Dunya]

On the authority of ‘Uqbah bin ‘Aamir رضي الله عنه, the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said asked, “O’ Prophet! What is salvation? How can I be saved?” He صلى الله عليه و سلم said, “Withhold your tongue, withhold your tongue and let your house confine you and weep over your sins. If you do these three things, that these are means of salvation.” [Sunan at-Tirmidhi and Musnad Imam Ahmad]

On the authority of ‘AbduLlah ibn Mas’ud رضي الله عنه, the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said, “To abuse a Muslim is Fusooq and to fight with a Muslim is an act of Kufr” [Sahih al-Bukhari]

On the authority of ‘AbduLlah ibn Mas’ud رضي الله عنه, the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said, “A Believer is one who doesn’t curse all the time, nor is he one who forever taunts others, nor he is the one who is offensive or lewd in his speech but a believer is pure of all of these things. Speaking a lot is a sign of hypocrisy. Speaking little is a sign of faith.” [Mustadrak al Hakim, Musnad Imam Ahmad and others]

On the authority of Abu Umamah al Bahili رضي الله عنه, the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said, “Modesty and bashfulness and speaking little are two of the branches of Faith. And speaking offensively and being abusive and talking a lot are two branches of hypocrisy”

[Sunan at-Tirmidhi]

On the authority of Abu Dharr al-Ghiffari رضي الله عنه, the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said, “Solitude is far better than bad company and good company is far better than solitude. To say something good is better than remaining silent but remaining silent is far better than saying something evil.” [Mustadrak al Hakim and Shu’bal Iman Imam al Bayhaqi]

On the authority of ‘AbduLlah bin ‘Umar رضي الله عنهما, the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said “The one who remained silent, has saved himself.” [Sunan at-Tirmidhi, Musnad Ahmad, Sunan ad-Darimi]

On the authority of Sufyan ibn ‘AbdiLlah ath-Thaqafi رضي الله عنه, “I asked the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said ‘O’ Prophet of Allah, tell me something that I can adhere to!’ The Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم replied, ‘Say, ‘I believe in Allah and remain firm and steadfast upon that.” I then asked, ‘O’ Prophet of Allah, ‘What do you fear for me the most?” He صلى الله عليه و سلم took hold of his tongue and said, ‘This!’” [Sunan at-Tirmidhi and Sunan Ibn Majah]

On the authority of Abu Ayyub رضي الله عنه that a man approached the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم and said, “O’ Prophet of Allah, give me some advice and be brief.” He صلى الله عليه و سلم said, “When you stand up to pray the Salah, perform the Salah of a departing person. Do not say anything for which you have to apologise tomorrow and convince yourself and despair of the possessions people have.” [Sunan at-Tirmidhi]

On the authority of Mu’adh bin Jabal رضي الله عنه, “One day we were travelling and I managed to get close to the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم on my mount and I said to him, ‘O’ Prophet of Allah, tell me something which will distance me from the fire of Hell and which will take me to Jannah.’ The Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said, ‘O’ Mu’adh, indeed you have asked for a great thing, one thing that will save you from the fire of Hell and take you to Jannah. O’ Mu’adh you have asked a great thing but surely it easy for those whom Allah will make it easy.’ Then the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said, ‘Worship Allah in such a way that you do not commit any Shirk with him. Establish Salah, give Zakah, fast in the month of Ramadan and perform the Hajj of the House of Allah.’ Then the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلمcontinued and said, ‘O’ Mu’adh, should I not tell you of the doors of all good? Fasting for it is a shield, Sadaqah for it extinguishes one’s sins as water extinguishes the fire and praying Salah in the darkness of the night.’ Then he صلى الله عليه و سلم recited the verses, ‘These true servants of Allah, they are those whose sides are kept away from their beds at night. They plead with their Lord and pray to Him, both, in hope and out of fear and what We have bestowed upon on them of that, they spend. For such people, non of these souls knows the good reward and the coolness of eyes that has been prepared for them in the Aakhirah as a reward for the good that they used to do.‘ Then the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم continued and said, ‘O’ Mu’adh, should I not inform of you of the foundation of religion, of the pillar of religion, of the peak of religion? O’ Mu’adh, the foundation of religion is Islam, the pillar of religion is Salah and the peak of religion is Jihad. But O’ Mu’adh, should I not inform you of something that encompasses of all of this?’ I said, ‘Why not O’ Prophet of Allah?’ He صلى الله عليه و سلم took hold of his tongue and said, ‘The thing which encompasses of all these deeds is that you withhold your tongue, is that you withhold your tongue!’ I said, ‘O’ Prophet of Allah, will we be held to account for our tongues utter?’ The Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said, ‘May your mother lose you, O’ Mu’adh, do you not realise is there anything else which throws people flat onto their faces in the fire of Jahannam, expect the harvest of their tongues!'” [Musnad Imam Ahmad, Sunan at-Tirmidhi and Sunan Ibn Majah]

Husayn ibn ‘Ali رضي الله عنه quotes that the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said, “Part of a person’s being a good Muslim, is that he speaks very little about the things that do not concern him.” [Musnad Imam Ahmad]

Once ‘Isa ibn Maryam عليه سلام was walking along the path and he had his companions with him and a pig was standing there by the road. So he عليه سلام addressed the pig and said to the pig, “You may walk across the path and do not fear no harm shall come to you.” So, one of his companions said, “O’ ‘Isa ibn Maryam, do you say something like this to a pig?” So, ‘Isa ibn Maryam عليه سلام said, “I only say good because I fear unless I say good, I will give my tongue the habit of speaking evil.” [Muwatta’ Imam Malik]

Imam Mardawayh رحمه الله has narrated that Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلمsaid, “Beware of backbiting for indeed it is severe and more than adultery. Because if the adulterer repents to Allah, Allah will forgive him but if the backbiter repents to Allah, Allah will never forgive him until the one against whom he backbite forgives him.” [Authentic]

Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلمsaid, “To curse a Muslim is like killing him.” [Sahih al-Bukhari]

And in another narration, “To accuse a Muslim is like killing.”

On the authority of Abu Sa’id al Khudri رضي الله عنه, Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلمsaid, “Each morning every part of the body pleads with the tongue, ‘O’ tongue fear Allah regarding this, for we are with you and we are as you are. If you are straight we are straight and if you are bent we are bent.’ [Sunan at-Tirmidhi]

Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلمsaid, “Be truthful, truthfulness guides a person to righteousness and righteousness leads a man to Jannah. A man continues to speak the truth and then he begins to search for opportunities to speak the truth and then he becomes an honest and truthful person in the Book of Allah. Beware of lying for lying leads a person to fujoor (sinning openly) and fujoor leads a man to Jahannam. And a man continues to lie and seek opportunities to lie until he is recorded as a liar in the Book of Allah.” [Sahihayn]

Once Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلمsaw a lady calling her child saying, “Come here, I’ll give you a date!” The child rushed off to his mother and she gave him a date. Then Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلمsaid, “If you had not given that child that date, that would have been a lie and Allah سبحانه و تعالى would have seized you for that lie!”

Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلمsaid, “At times a person says one word to which he pays no attention but on the Day of Judgement Allah سبحانه و تعالى will fling him into the fire of Jahannam.”

In another narration, “He will continue to fall 70 years in the fire of Jahannam because of that word alone.” [Sahihayn]

On the authority of Bilal ibn Harith al Muzani رضي الله عنه, the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said, “The servant of Allah at times utters one word of the Pleasure of Allah to which he attaches no importance but for that one word Allah سبحانه و تعالى record His Pleasure with Him until the Day he meets Allah. The servant of Allah at times utters one word of the Displeasure of Allah to which he attaches no importance but for that one word Allah سبحانه و تعالى record His Displeasure with Him until the Day he meets Allah.” [Muwatta’ Imam Malik]

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